Directive Communication - Day 2

Directive Communication – Day 2

Take key away for the day:

1)      RAS – Your FOCUS - a tool towards fulfilment in our lives

2)      When you BLAME you create a FLAME in the relationship/ in the environment around you

3)      NO BLAME ZONE!

4)      Encoded Assumptions – Rules of Engagement

Let me ask you a very simple question, how many times do we blame the environment around us to be a major player for everything that is happening in our lives? Almost every time.

I have seen many close friends/ relations falling apart when they got into the BLAME game.

“It was he who started it!”

“It was never me, he just cannot understand”

Even before you realize, this BLAME is a FLAME which and spreading around you and makes the environment unpleasant.

Our reality is based on what I am focusing on – My RAS determines what I really want to focus and perceive about things around me and that becomes my reality which affects how I treat others. How I treat them will affect their behaviour with you. To make it simple, I hold the remote control and play the news which I perceive is the most important news of the hour. Others act like the DUMB Television box with NO intelligence and respond to the trigger button.

We need to be aware on what is my RAS doing to me. Is it helping me create the environment I am craving for or is it distancing me from it. The answer is within each one of us.

No Blame Zone! Act The Hero’s Way i.e., acting intelligently and start focusing on the solutions.

Our encoded assumptions – our perceptions create limitation and being open minded to how perceptions of others differ from our own can widen our own experiences and provide limitless possibilities for growth and discovery.

Also to act intelligently – it is important to understand the cognitive brain (Intelligence centre), limbic brain (Emotional Centre) and the reptilian brain (reactive centre).

The reptilian brain is the lizard brain which stops you from being intelligent.  We all need to act from our cognitive brain i.e, my intelligent brain and become more evolved.